Benefits of Long Distance Relationship (LDR)

We are all aware that many relationships are also in long distance. Most are left in  the Philippines, and your partner will go working abroad. Saying this as a Filipina who is also in a LDR situation. I have friends too that after how many years being with their loved ones in one country ended up LDR. Which in our part is super hard. But we will not focus on that parts ‘coz I have a list of benefits of this situation. Believe me, being in a LDR is not as complicated as everyone thought. It is just a matter of acceptance and maturity. If you cannot handle everything, better you stop fooling yourselves in the first place. Too, I am not saying that LDR is only for strong people, I always believe we are all strong in our own ways. Self control and positivity is the key. Not just love and trust and loyalty. 

Here are some benefits of LDR in my opinion and own experience:

1. You are going to have more time for your self.

Yes. That is a fact. After how many years being accompanied by your loved ones, you are finally going to see the wider world you only thought is as small as your hand. You will realize you can do more and better, it is like being single but you are in a relationship. BUT, nevee ever take this for granted as you know you have your other half in the other side of the world. You will not realize this at first are covered with loneliness and self pity. You will always miss the one you love, but trust me, helping your self first will set your relationshio worry free. 

2. You will realize who really matters most.

You’ll meet different kinds of people wherever you will go. You will be a little curious about your surroundings and will get involved with different groups of friends, but later on you will go home alone and realize one thing; they don’t really matter. You and your loved ones are more important. You are just lonely to hang out, you are longing for hugs from the people you loved the most. Just do not get off with this mindset and you are not going to be in a situation where you can think of cheating. Do not cheat, there is no better hand and lips than the love of your life. Always remember that. 

3. You will have more time to think.

If you are always together with your loved ones, you have few times about thinking. You might have multiple exchange of convos but you have few times to really think about what’s really going on. If you are in LDR your free times are always spent on thinking and realizing stuffs and everything is self improvement. Which is also better. 

4. You will always be missed and everything always feels new.

Yep. He or she will always miss you and there is no better feeling knowing that one person is thinking about you from the time he wakes up. You are going to feel special everyday specially when you both do efforts to make each other happy. 

5. You will love each other more.

Distance makes you know how you can manage everything good and bad and how to handle things carefully. You always long for each other then it means the love will always be burning. Just have proper time management of communications and then you are set. Just believe that nothing is permanent except change, your situation will always get better, and so your feelings will change from less to more. 

“Problems are always present. But never exaggerate. Never put yourself down for you do not own all the problems of the world.” -Jhevey Razon

His 1st 12 months of love ❤

I woke up this morning at 6:30, October 24, 2016 Spain time. With his long message. I need to prepare to work but I cannot move. I am teary eyed and very touched reading his long message as a greeting for our 1st Anniversary. He is working in a cruise ship in the culinary department and now in Istanbul, Turkey. 

He is not the first man that i have been in a relationship but I can feel he is going to be my last. He never last a relationship before, in short, in his 24 years of existence, ako lang ang nabati nya ng “Happy Anniversary!” I am flattered. All of my past relationships are very serious but I always end up leaving them. Also because of their faults, but with this one, with Kerk, I feel like he is my first boyfriend. I can cry of joy. The only man who also thinks about my own sake. The only man who helped me grow. The only man who made me feel that I need to see more of myself. The only man who made me feel that I can do better everyday. 

Let us erase that part, I want to share how happy he is. He video called me and then proposed to me. Showing the promise ring. Until now I cannot believe he did that. We are not the perfect couple you could ever see, we have a lot of flaws and that flaws made our binds stronger and to love each other harder. 

This is the message he got me.

Bii happy happy anniversary saatin. Ang saya saya ko sobrang saya ko kasi 12months of love na tayo. Sayo ko lng nasabi to at ikaw lng ang babae na minahal ko ng sobra kaya nga ikaw ang pakakasalan ko bii at nagpapasalamat ako sa lahat lahat ng efforts mo bii para saakin sa pag intindi pag unawa at pagtitiis sa ugali kong di maintindihan pag pasensyahan mo na rin ako bii kasi minsan matampuhin ako at lagi kita naaway pero ang totoo sobrang mahal na mahal kita at auqng mawawala ka saakin kasi hndi ko kaayanin ng wla ka. Ikaw ang inspirasyon ko ikaw ang pangarap ko at ikaw ang buhay ko kaya qng wala ka wala rin ako bii. Mahal na mahal na mahal na mahal kitaa bibii ko. Salamat sa lahat at dumating ka sa buhay ko! I love you bii!😘😘😘😍😍😍😘❤❤❤❤   

I cannot believe he can say that. Napaka playboy nya, kaliwat kanan ang gf noon. Pero look at him now. Wala talagang imposible. Noon ang gusto ko lang eh mahalin sya, ang naging resulta, ako ang mahal na mahal nya. Nakakaiyak. 

Salamat Lord sa ganitong klaseng love na pwede palang mag exists. 

Hindi natin masasabi ang bukas.

Sa twing may mga nadaan saating mga problema, maliit man o malaki, basta alam nating maaapektuhan ang ating future eh sobra tayong nagwoworry. Normal lang yun. Dahil takot tayong hindi maging ayos ang takbo ng lahat. Takot tayong hindi natin magawa ang ating mga plano o balak sa buhay. Nakakatakot naman talaga. Nakakapangamba.

Ang kasalukuyan ay ang magiging resulta ng hinaharap, kailangan nating ibuhos ang ating best ngayon dahil hindi natin masasabi ang bukas. Wag nating hintayin ang pagkakataong magsisisi pa tayo dahil lang sa maliit na bagay na ating magagawa na akala natin ay “okay lang.” Lagi nating isipin kung ano ang makakasama, lagi nating isipin ang mga “bawal” at ang mga bagay na hindi natin pupwedeng gawain. 

Ang tukso ay parang “buffet” lagi lang yang nakahain, at ikaw ang nagbabantay ng buffet alam mong hindi yun para sayo kaya wag kang titikim. Pero minsan dahil sa kaakit akit nitong presentasyon, mabangong amoy at samu’t saring pagkain, di mo maiiwasang isipin na tumikim lalo na kung walang nakatingin. Pero dadating ang araw makikita ka ng Boss mo, at pag nahuli ka, saka ka palang matatakot sa susunod na mangyayari sayo. Pwede kang matanggal sa trabaho, pwede kang mailipat sa panget na pwesto, pwedeng masira lahat ng mga plano mo sa mga susunod pang araw. Ang buhay mo sa trabaho ay relasyon mo sa sarili mo. Kailangang patunayan mo araw araw na karapat dapat ka sa posisyon mo. Pero tao ka lang at nagkakamali, pero lagi mong tatandaan na kahit anong ganda ng nakahain, ang tukso ay kailangan mong ipagpa-isang tabi pa rin. 

Wala kang ibang masisisi kundi sarili mo, pero dun mo mapapatunayan na may silbi ka pala sa mundo. Dahil kung ang iniisip mo lang ay ang sarili mo siguradong hindi ka mamomroblema ng todo. Alam mo kasing may mga taong nakasandal sayo, at alam mong may mga tao kang gustong mapasaya. Basta ngayon ang mahalaga, alam mo na. Wag kang papayag na maghapon kang walang  nagawang maganda. Dahil kung maghapon mong sisisihin ang sarili mo, lalo lang lalala ang sitwasyon at hindi ka makakagawa ng ayos at nasa plano. 

Mabuti nga at maliit na bagay lang ang naging problema mo. Hindi yung malalaking dahilan na as in ikaw ay naka-perwisyo. Basta eto lagi ang tatandaan mo, 

Ayos lang magkamali, basta ikaw eh matututo.

Pray, Forgive and Forget

Kapag mahal mo pala talaga ang isang tao, hindi mahalaga kung ano ang mga masasamang napagdaanan nyo, at ang maiisip mo kagad eh kung paano kayo mas magiging matatag. 

Weh? Baka sabi mo lang yan? Baka sa umpisa lang naman yan?

Hindi rin. Hehe. Sa umpisa kahit anong nagawa nyang mali, masakit. At maiisip mo na habang tumatagal, masakit pa rin. Pero alam mo na masasaktan sya pag nasasaktan ka kaya babalewalain mo na lang kasi in the first place nakapag sorry na sya at ilang beses mo na syang napatawad. In the long run, sarili mo na lang ang kalaban mo. Kaya you have to control what you think and your emotions too. Keep yourself busy, do productive stuffs. Yup. Productive. Kesa mag self pity ka sa bahay buong buhay mo, okay lang mag self pity paminsan minsan, ang sarap rin kayang umiyak. Pero wag mo uugaliin ha. Pray ka rin para mas maging matatag ang loob mo. Tulad ng sinabi ko, sarili mo na lang ang kalaban mo. Makakatulong rin na paminsan minsan sabihin mo sa jowa mo ang nararamdaman mo. Dahil sya rin ang makakatulong sayo. Wag mo syang aawayin dahil sa mga nagawa nyang pinagsisisihan nya na rin hanggang ngayon. Tao lang sya at tao ka lang rin. 

MAIKLI lang ang buhay para sa bad vibes. Ang iwan natin sa bawat tao ay ang mga nagawa nating maganda kahit pa anong sama ng ating pinagdaanan.

God bless.